You track everything. Except this.
You track:
Your sleep...
But with relationships? YouĘĽre still guessing.
The #1 thing that ends relationships is not cheating, distance, or lack of sex—it's the fights you think are about these things but are really about something else.
YouĘĽre fighting smoke. The fire is somewhere else.
- The 10th reminder—are they not listening, or sabotaging things?
- The 100th time sex is not happening—or you have shut them down.
- Dishes that turn into a multi-day argument living rent free in your head.
- Little digs about your work. Wondering if you can still trust them.
- They bring things up at the worst time. You both spiral.
That is just the smoke. The real source—the pattern that keeps lighting the match—lives under the surface.
Why you cannot see it clearly
Your brain fills in the blanks using old memories, past relationships, and childhood templates. It feels like truth—but it is projection.
Without realizing it, you react to expectations and collect “evidence” to prove them, accidentally creating more of what you do not want.
What SparkTheory does
We give you the clearest view you have ever had of your relationship—and yourself.
Your Membership starts with a forensic-level analysis that shows:
- What your partner is doing that is working (and you have been missing)
- What is quietly eroding trust and connection
- How your patterns compare to other high-functioning couples
From “I wish theyʼd change” to “We are changing”
You will see real-time trends from couples like you:
Tiny shifts, big breakthroughs
Which small changes consistently unlock connection and resolve recurring fights.
Looks like closeness... but hides distance
Habits that mimic intimacy while actually masking distance.
Spend energy wisely
What is worth your effort—and what is not. Grounded in neuroscience and relationship research.
How We are Different
AI and machine learning give you the data.
We turn it into clear, actionable insight you can use the same day.
Of course, you could always just:
Or...try something new. A smart tool for smart, data-driven people.
Why now
When you understand how the brain processes threat, love, and memory, you stop arguing about symptoms and start solving the root cause.
The SparkTheory app is coming—but Founding Members get free access to our assessment and analysis now, plus first-in-line status for the full program.
What your Membership gets you
Crystal clear, data-driven view
A forensic look at what is really happening between you.
Separate reality from projection
Insights that distinguish your partnerĘĽs reality from your expectations.
Benchmarks that matter
See how you stack up against couples thriving in similar circumstances.